"(our studies suggest that) when evaluating outcomes in isolation, people tend to be more concerned with interpersonal comparison of outcomes than with maximizing personal outcomes." [1]

"(…) these judgments appear to be biased in a self-serving manner and to respond to factors that are difficult to justify on normative grounds. Our own recent research has focused on one particular dramatic example - the tendency for relative comparisons to receive much greater weight in one-at-a-time evaluation than in comparative choice." [2]


Comparisons are inevitable. We all compare, whether we want to admit it or not, so if we all do it and we can't help it, then it is not a problem. The problem is if you let it affect you.

When we compare we only see the good on the other part and the bad part in us. It's skewed. It's a game designed to lose.

It will happen, because we can't help it. But it makes no difference, it doesn't mean anything to anyone. It's just a bug in your brain. Keep going.

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